A Creed for Humanity

23 06 2010

I value the act of unconditionally accepting EVERY person I  encounter in this world.. friend or stranger, similar or different.. Regardless of age, personality, flaws, faults or even bad choices they may have made. While I may be aware of their failings, I recognize that the failings I see so easily in others are, more often than not, far smaller than those present  in myself.

While I love my family and friends in a special way – a different way – I  affirm the inherent worth and value of strangers just as much as that of those I hold dear.. I refuse to demean, to gossip or put another human being down.. in their presence, or in their absence. The only criticism I utter will be constructive words that encourage change, spoken to their face. I will give them the dignity of seeing the best in them, overlooking the negatives, emphasizing the positives.. and remembering that they too have people they love and would die for, secret hopes, dreams and memories, joy, pain and fears, things they dislike about themselves and long to change, things they wish they could be – and things they could be, if only they were encouraged enough.

And I realise that I never know how much I may find myself in need of that very same stranger’s goodwill one day.

I see every person I meet as a soul created unique, with infinite value and destined to live with purpose.. If they have lost sight of this or lost their way, I will not judge them or leave them on the road of life as I pass by; I will rather be a light illuminating their darkness, a sign of hope pointing the way to a future of transformation, discovery, realization and freedom.


There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread, but there are many more dying for a little love. I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.  ~Mother Teresa

“You’ve heard the saying, ‘Love your neighbour and hate your enemy’. But I say, love your enemies! …That way, you’ll be acting as true children of God. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you only love those who love you, what value is there in that? Even corrupt criminals do that. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even the most immoral and heartless people in society do that.” ~Jesus

Love …believes the best in all things, hopes all things… ~The Bible

If we could all hear one another’s prayers, God might be relieved of some of his burdens.  ~Ashleigh Brilliant

Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light.  ~Norman B. Rice

God has not called us to see through each other, but to see each other through.  ~Author Unknown

Wherever a man turns he can find someone who needs him.  ~Albert Schweitzer

He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.  ~Abraham Lincoln

He who gives when he is asked has waited too long.  ~ Author Unknown

Charity sees the need, not the cause.  ~German Proverb


The Statue Inside of You

11 01 2010


From “Life Beyond Code” by Rajesh Setty – enjoy.  And HAPPY NEW YEAR!



Michelangelo said it right – “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”

And how does the sculptor discover it?

Simply by removing all the unwanted stone surrounding the statue.

Is this easy? No.

Is this painless for the stone? No.

Is this foolproof? No.

But if you want to discover the statute inside the stone, it’s got to be done. No other option.

If, on the other hand, you want to be nice to the stone and decide that you will simply use a good cloth and start polishing it, what will you get?

Polished crap.

Not a statue but polished crap.

It is the same case with you. There is a beautiful statue inside of you. You just need to remove the unwanted stuff that is preventing that statue to come out. The unwanted stuff can be as simple as “unproductive habits” that is stopping you from getting to where you want to go.

For starters, the “feedback” from the market and the people who care for you is what will remove the unwanted stuff. But, only if you take it seriously and do something about that feedback. If you are defensive and not listen to the feedback, you may never discover that beautiful statue.

What is your legacy?

30 09 2009

A friend emailed me a poem today – one I hadn’t come across before, and it really made me think.

So much of our life is about the difference we make to others – what we give to others and how they will remember us. My family recently lost a very dear uncle, and I realised only then how much of an impact he made on me as a person, and how much he contributed to my world. I have only happy memories of him. This whole experience made me stop and consider the big picture. How will people remember me? Or, to put it another way, what is the legacy I am leaving behind me as I travel, as I live, as I interact with people and the world around me?

It’s important to enjoy each day as it comes – but it’s also important, sometimes, to take the time to think about the “big picture”.

Here’s the poem – don’t see it as a morbid thing – it’s valuable to consider our mortality sometimes, as it gives our life meaning. Let this inspire you to be a better person!




I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone from the beginning to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth and spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time that she spent alive on earth
And now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own, the cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard; are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough to consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger and show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read with your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?



On Dreams, Ruts, and Fear of Change

1 07 2009
Breaking free...

Breaking free...

I recently emailed a good friend to encourage and challenge them to leave a job they have been unhappy with for many months.

As I re-read the email I’d sent, it occurred to me that the message it communicated would apply just as well to any other area of life where you find yourself “stuck” or in a rut. The reality is that the human psyche is often the same across the board – the same fears that hold one person back from changing jobs, hold someone else back from moving overseas, starting a business, leaving a bad relationship, or finally doing that “one thing” they always dreamed of doing. We all get held back at times by fear of the unknown.. fear of failure.. and maybe even fear of success and the criticism or attention it might bring.

I recall a recent discussion with some friends of mine, where someone asked “if accountability is so motivating, why don’t we share our goals and aspirations more?” We concluded that either (1 You fear that your goal / dream might be ridiculed or dismissed by others, so you don’t share it, or (2 You fear that people might be impressed with the goal / dream, but that then you risk embarrassment if you fail to reach it after sharing it openly.

Two vital keys to pursuing your goals & dreams are:

(1. Realise that everyone has goals, dreams and aspirations – you are not alone. Yours may not be the same as everyone else’s, but they are just as important.

(2. Realise that it is human nature to fear change, but you also have the power to act in spite of that fear. I believe the biggest part of overcoming it is recognizing that it is there, acknowledging its power to hold you back if you let it. Consciously choose to master your fear – don’t let your fear master you without you realizing it.

Here is the message I sent my friend. Apply it to yourself (I am doing the same).


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This is the voice from the sky that you have been waiting for……… this vital message is not getting through! This message will be there, daring you to act – today, and tomorrow, and the next day, and the next.. until you change your situation!




You should have done it yesterday, and you know it……. The fact that you haven’t makes you feel bad and powerless…. And you’ll keep feeling that way as long as you are still in the same place.

It WON’T change. The definition of insanity is doing the SAME thing, every day, and expecting different results.

You are not enjoying it, you have NO interest in what you’re wasting endless hours EVERY DAY doing… it is stifling and squashing your awesome personality – and if you do this for long enough, you will lose the capacity to believe in yourself and have faith in your ability to pursue your dreams and achieve your goals.

Change is SCARY and frightening….. you have this amazing personality but a part of that is that you don’t like confrontation, upsetting people or rocking the boat, and will do anything to avoid it if you can. BUT you have to realise that you cannot please everybody, and that everyone has their own lives to worry about – this also includes YOU. No-one else will do it for you. And at the end of the day, other people really don’t care about whether you stay or go – you could stay there for the next FIVE YEARS and no-one would be impressed – people would just think “oh that’s the nice person who has been here for five years”.. while you would be DYING INSIDE wishing you’d chosen differently.

Do you want to still be suffering dutifully, restricted in the same place, in 2014??

No? Ok, how about 2013?

2012? 2011?

No? Then what about 2010???

The time for change is not tomorrow. The time for change is NOW.

To get the right answers, you need to start asking the right QUESTIONS… instead of “Why am I still here”… or “How long till my situation changes”.. you need to ask “What do I need to start doing TODAY to get me to where I want to be TOMORROW (or next month). Start looking!!! Make a plan! One week after you introduce this change, I guarantee that you will be wondering why you didn’t do it sooner, and asking why you put up with that for so LONG! Change is a lot easier than you think it is……… it’s the IDEA of change that is scary. If you can get past that, your possibilities are ENDLESS.

In closing: the difference between who you ARE and who you want to BE, is what you choose to DO.


Learn to fly - just because you can

Learn to fly - just because you can

If Today Was Your Last Day

14 06 2009
If today was your last day...

If today was your last day...

Today I head this new song by Nickelback, from their Dark Horse album. The lyrics may not be the most original, the message really struck a chord with me. We all know what it’s like to procrastinate (some of us more than others!); the truth is that we can put off doing the things that make our life matter – to us, and to others.

The songs says “the hands of time are never on your side” – this is so true. What important thing(s) could you do today that you’ve been putting off? What would you actually do if today was your last day?

Lyrics to the song are below. Let it stir you into action! Change is not comfortable but if we don’t grow, we go backwards and our life actually gets SMALLER. Think about it – and DO.


Watch the music video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0Ia07pu704

If Today Was Your Last Day lyrics
Songwriters: Kroeger, Chad

My best friend gave me the best advice
He said each day’s a gift and not a given right
Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind
And try to take the path less traveled by
That first step you take is the longest stride

If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
Would you live each moment like your last
Leave old pictures in the past?
Donate every dime you had, if today was your last day?
What if, what if, if today was your last day?

Against the grain should be a way of life
What’s worth the price is always worth the fight
Every second counts ’cause there’s no second try
So live like you’re never living twice
Don’t take the free ride in your own life

If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
Would you live each moment like your last?
Leave old pictures in the past?
Donate every dime you had?

And would you call those friends you never see?
Reminisce old memories?
Would you forgive your enemies?
And would you find that one you’re dreaming of?
Swear up and down to God above
That you’d finally fall in love if today was your last day?

If today was your last day
Would you make your mark by mending a broken heart?
You know it’s never too late to shoot for the stars
Regardless of who you are

So do whatever it takes
‘Cause you can’t rewind a moment in this life
Let nothing stand in your way
‘Cause the hands of time are never on your side

If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
Would you live each moment like your last?
Leave old pictures in the past?
Donate every dime you had?

And would you call those friends you never see?
Reminisce old memories?
Would you forgive your enemies?
And would you find that one you’re dreaming of
Swear up and down to God above
That you’d finally fall in love if today was your last day?