Stuck? 6 Keys to Breakthrough..

23 02 2010

How many times have you faced a situation or a time in your life where you just felt STUCK. In a rut, as it were. Here are some quick keys to breakthrough..

1. Get some direction. Ask yourself what you actually want – “what would you do if you knew you could not fail?” You’ll never get momentum without a sense of direction.

2. Realise you have a choice! You may not be able to control you circumstances, but you can control your response. There is a difference between responding and reacting. The difference lies in the seat of control – are you occupying it, or your circumstances?

3. Acknowledge the things that block you from responding. Fear of taking responsibility, fear of failure, fear of others’ opinions, fear….. The first step to beat any problem is to recognise its existence. “Know your enemy to defeat it”.

4. Share your goals with someone else (who will support you)! Accountability yields commitment. I was talking with some friends recently about why we don’t do this, and realised that either:

a. We fear falling short of others expectations (what-if-I-fail?) and so try to play down our goals or keep them private, or

b. We fear that the goal itself may be seen as too small (a bit silly or easy) – or too big (who do you think you are?) – in the eyes of others when we share it.

In short, we fear people’s reactions to the actual goal, and then we fear their potential reaction should we fail to achieve it. If it’s too small, they’ll laugh at us. If it’s too big, we might fail and expose ourselves to ridicule. Solution is in the next point…

5. Don’t let other people hold you back with the same reasoning and negativity that they hold their own lives back with! Realise that everyone has hopes and goals, but most people fail to achieve them – for lack of courage and lack of proactiveness. So don’t fear the critics! US President Theodore Roosevelt once said:

“…the man who really counts in the world is the doer, not the mere critic – the man who actually does the work, even if roughly and imperfectly, not the man who only talks or writes about how it ought to be done.”

6. And finally, realise that the times where you are most held back from doing something (by fear, lack of faith etc), will often be the times where if you push through, you will experience the greatest reward and success!

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Great Quotes From Great Thinkers..

23 02 2010

Some of my favourite quotes from Robin Sharma, business leadership coach, author and speaker. Along with a few thought-provoking quotes from other great minds.

Read, and be inspired!

Quinton

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As you reflect back over your life, ask this powerful question: “Could i have done more?” If yes, do more now. Too many people die at 30 and are buried at 80

What makes genius isn’t just the big idea but the brilliant execution to advance it

A key trait of greatness is to never lose your lust for learning.

You can’t create an outer life that’s more excellent than the quality of your inner life – outer leadership begins with self-leadership. Life doesn’t give you what you want – life gives you who you are. For things to change, we must change. for our lives to become exceptional, we must first become exceptional. The starting point of it all: to change the world, transform yourself.

What would do today if you had a deep knowing that it was impossible to fail? A secret of greatness is to do the things that make you feel uncomfortable and play out on the jagged edges of your life. If you’re not really growing, you’re not truly living.

Winston Churchill said “The price of greatness is responsibility.” Either you set your goals and, in doing so, have your life governed by choice or you do nothing and have your life governed by chance. You can live your life by chance or by choice. It’s really up to you.

Lead without a title. Leadership isn’t about the size of your position. Real leadership is about the depth of your commitment. Your job as a Leader Without a Title? To stay “couraged” in a world that dis-courages you from being awesome

Life’s greatest longing is for the fullest expression of your best self. Aim for brilliance. If you miss, at least you’ll end up at excellence.

Goals matter. They are your hopes seeking expression. And without hope, life is dead.

Life is fair. The amount of wealth you experience will be a function of how much value you create for others. What a great paradox: the more you share your talents and gifts with others, the bigger the gift you give yourself

The heart knows what the mind cannot understand [trust your gut]

Treat everyone you meet as if they might die tomorrow.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a greater understanding of ourselves. – Carl Jung

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. – Aldous Huxley

“If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito.” – Anita Roddick, founder, The Body Shop”

A public-opinion poll is no substitute for thought.” – Warren Buffett