Lessons From Gladiator

27 05 2009

All of Rome will remember this day...

 The movie Gladiator is in my top five favourite movies of all time (and I watch alot of movies). I remember feeling inspired and challenged the first time I watched it – it was as if a gauntlet was thrown down in front of me, challenging me to be a better person – a better man. Stronger, truer, more disciplined and honourable. Someone people can look to for encouragement and draw strength from. Someone who would make my family proud (in a good way). Gladiator was more than just another action movie, to me.

There’s a reason men (and women) loved Gladiator. The main character, Maximus Decimus Meridius, is the epitome of manliness, strength and honour.

Here are four lessons that we can learn from him – taken from a post on the site “Art of Manliness”. I agree with these wholeheartedly – and after reading them (and having recently watched the movie again), I find myself resolving, once again, to be a better man. Enjoy.

– Quinton

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Four Lessons from Maximus…

1. He loved his family and was loyal to them

Maximus was a family man. He turned down the glory of being Emperor of Rome in order to embrace the warmth of familial love.

Marcus Aurelius: When was the last time you were home?

Maximus: Two years, two hundred and sixty-four days and this morning.

Although Maximus’ wife was brutally murdered, this did not dampen his devotion to her. Throughout the film a romantic tension exists between Maximus and the Emperor’s daughter. Yet Maximus stayed loyal to his dead wife and family and turned down her advances.

[Maximus looks at images of his wife and son]

Juba: Can they hear you?

Maximus: Who?

Juba: Your family. In the afterlife.

Maximus: Oh yes.

Juba:What do you say to them?

Maximus: To my son — I tell him I will see him again soon. To keep his heels down while riding his horse. To my wife… that is not your business.

2. He loved his country

Before Maximus became a gladiator, he was a loyal general in the Roman army. His men respected and honored him greatly.

When Rome falls into corrupted hands, he does not give up on his country. Loyally striving to fulfill the dying emperor’s wish for Roman rule to be restored to the people and the Senate, Maximus toils and sacrifices until the Republic is restored.

3. He could kick anyone’s ass, yet remained honorable.

“Gladiator” is known for its amazing fight scenes. In every battle, whether in war or in the arena, Maximus always defeated his opponent with a combination of brute force and strategy. He was able to ignore pain to get the job done. He never gave in to fear. Instead, he exuded an a quiet confidence that unnerved his opponents. He never doubted his ability to win.

Maximus: At my signal, unleash hell.

While Maximus excelled at the martial arts, he did not revel in bloodshed. He only fought when he needed to and in the service of a worthy cause.

4. He was in tune with spirituality

Maximus: What we do in life, echoes in eternity.

Maximus devoted time to his spiritual life. He prayed to his gods. He had no doubt that his wife and son were waiting for him in the afterlife. Before each battle, Maximus would reach down and run dirt through his hands. It was as if he was asking the gods to be with him during the battle.

Maximus: Ancestors, I ask you for your guidance. Blessed mother, come to me with the Gods’ desire for my future. Blessed father, watch over my wife and son with a ready sword. Whisper to them that I live only to hold them again, for all else is dust and air. Ancestors, I honor you and will try to live with the dignity that you have taught me.





Where’s Your Sense of Wonder?

26 05 2009

sand

While searching through some old emails yesterday, I came across something I wrote a while ago – June 19, 2004, to be exact. Enjoyed reading it again after so long (had almost forgotten about it). Picture a young family walking on the beach in the early evening, when the stars are just coming out. A carefree kid – maybe 4 years old – suddenly notices a shooting star. The kid looks up and his easily impressed mind thinks “woww” as he is struck by the stunning twilight sky. This could have been you, at some time in your childhood – a moment long forgotten. As we grow up and become adults, it’s easy to lose our sense of wonder at the awesomeness of creation, of the world we live in. (Remember “Finding Neverland”?). Anyway – here it is. Enjoy.

– Quinton

Wondering – by Quinton McCauley

 

Remember

That time when you were little

And innocent

 

Out one summer evening

Running carefree on sand unspoiled

Playful salty rhythms splashing

Up between your toes

 

Twilight

As mum and dad walked behind

Arm in arm

Watching, smiling

 

Then remember

How you stopped

All of a sudden

Your eye caught by something

 

A glimmer

A flash of fleeting existence

Falling briefly

In the fading sky

 

Remember

How you looked up

Then noticed

For the first time

The universe

 

Vast

 

Spread out before you

A wondering child

 

Remember

How you could not bring yourself

To look down

 

Mum and dad smiled

Amused

But you wondered

 

You are older now

Years have changed your world

But remember

Please

 

Remember to wonder

And never to look down





Great Quotes From Great Thinkers

19 05 2009
Great thinkers...

Great thinkers...

After some downtime due to me being away on a business conference in New South Wales’ stunning “Hunter Valley”, 1000 Diamonds is back in action! Thanks for your patience while I’ve been enjoying my time away.

Last week’s “Great Quotes From Great Thinkers” post was one of the most popular to date. In view of this, I have decided to do this once a week – a collection of inspirational “out-of-the-box” thoughts from some of the great thinkers out there. 90% of these quotes each week will be taken from material I have read within the last week – I follow a number of people on Twitter, Facebook, and blogs. So these quotes could not be more cutting edge!

Here is this week’s edition: enjoy.

Quinton

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From Robin Sharma…

Reading drives passion. What brilliant fuel are you dropping into your mind today?

100 years from now, everyone alive today will be dust. What are you working on that will live beyond your life? BIG QUESTION!

A key personal leadership idea which helps me play at peak best: the way you begin the day drives how well you perform in the day.

There is too much information out there. Too many distractions. Try to know a lot about the few things important to you. Your mind only has so much space.

Success in business comes down to two words: radical helpfulness.

Why do something if you’re not in it to be great?

The smallest of choices today could lead to the greatest of consequences tomorrow.

How high you perform is less a reflection of opportunities available than it is personal power you’ve become intimate with.

Lift your game today: make yourself a living “mediocrity free zone.”

You become who you drink coffee with. You grow into the people you spent your best hours with.

To have more, we must first become more.

Your external actions broadcast your internal beliefs.

 

From Tony Robbins…

Change is automatic.. As the years go by your body, your relationships, the world will change. Change is automatic. Progress is not!

Success is the result of good judgement , Good judgement is the result of Experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgement!

A happy person is not a person with a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

Remember The 90 Second Rule: act on a good idea or great opportunity within 90 seconds. Before the voice of fear begins to take over.

The only reason you may not be as successful and alive as you want, is because you’re not doing the things that successful and alive people do.

 

From other thinkers…

“It’s never too late to be who you might have been.” – George Elliot. (Make a decision today and decide on a course that aligns you with your passion!)

“You can’t build up a reputation on what you are going to do.” – Henry Ford. (Kick it today… no more delays!)

“You become the average of the 5 people you spend most time with.” (quoted by my friend Carolin Dahlman)

“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice; it’s conformity.” – Earl Nightingale (American motivational speaker and author – one of twelve Marines who survived the attack on USS Arizona at Pearl Harbour).

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better – it’s not!” From The Lorax by Dr Seuss

“You can judge your age by the amount of pain you feel when you come in contact with a new idea.” – Pearl Buck (first American woman to receive Nobel Prize in Literature)

“It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory.” – tongue in cheek comment from W Edwards Deming (American statistician, author, lecturer, and consultant)

“Those who lack courage will always find a philosophy to justify it.” – Albert Camus (French Algerian author, philosopher, and journalist)

“Sophie is asking mum ‘Why am I NOT a doll… NOT an adult… NOT a boy… NOT a giraffe?’ It’s so easy to miss all we are when we focus on what we are not!” – Christine Caine (Christian speaker, author, mother)

“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that things are difficult.” – Seneca (Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, dramatist)

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Gandhi “If life is school, what lessons have you learned today?” – Brian Houston (Christian author, speaker, minister)

“High performers shine – even when the sun doesn’t.” (Ad spotted in Hong Kong airport. Cheesy line, yet wildly true.)

“If you’re doing something out of fear, it will be the wrong choice – even if turns out to have been the right decision.” – Marriane Williamson (activist, author, lecturer and founder of The Peace Alliance)





Lance Armstrong: thoughts of a champion

15 05 2009

Live Strong!Fantastic article I found on Dumb Little Man. Enjoy! I’m off the annual Insight Insurance Brokers conference in the stunning Hunter Valley – leaving now and won’t be back till Sunday evening. So till then – have a great weekend!

– Quinton

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Lance Armstrong is one of those remarkable humans that has a story strong enough to inspire others to take action. He is the type of person whose struggles make your common complaints appear minimal in comparison. If you haven’t heard Lance’s story, then you’ve seriously missed learning from one of the most dedicated and heroic figures of modern times.

Allow me to give you a quick update. In 1996, Lance was diagnosed with testicular cancer and was found to have tumors on both his brain and his lungs. After successful surgery, Lance didn’t just waddle through life and get to live a lifestyle similar to the healthiest of us, definitely not…he topped that by a long shot.

Since his surgery in 1996, he has gone on to:

Become a professional road racing cyclist

Win the Tour de France 7 times, breaking a record of 5 by Miguel Indurain and others

Not only did he win it, but he won it consecutively from 1999-2005

Named Worldwide sports athlete of the year in 1999

He won ESPN’s Best Male Athlete award 4 years in a row

…and so much more.
To be fair, if I continued the bullet-points they could really go on forever. Not only is the Tour de France one of the most grueling race courses in the world, but being able to win it 7 years in a row and after life saving surgery is nothing short of miraculous.

But as you are about to find out, Lance doesn’t believe in miracles. I have been so inspired by Lance’s dedication that I thought his lessons would be great advice to anyone looking to get the most out of life. Whether young or old, I think anyone can benefit from his outlook…

Know that Pain is Temporary
Sometimes, to get what we want out of life we really have to work for it; we have to battle through the hard times. I’m sure all of you reading this can relate to a time in your life where you had to literally push yourself to keep going.

However, you must also realize that pain is temporary so unless you have set impossible goals, your struggles and efforts won’t last forever. The results will come to you.

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.”

Realize you Have Two Choices
Whether it’s seeing the positive in things versus the negative or deciding to go for something or not, there are a lot of great possibilities in life on the other side of two choices. For Lance, those two choices he decided to focus on were a great testament to his mindset: you either give up or you die trying.

“If children have the ability to ignore all odds and percentages, then maybe we can all learn from them. When you think about it, what other choice is there but to hope? We have two options, medically and emotionally: give up, or Fight Like Hell.”

Go for What You Want Now, Before it’s Too Late
We really never know what is around the corner. Our partner could become pregnant, there could be a family emergency where we need to lend funds, or we may even be in a critical health situation that physically stops us from completing our goals. We often wait till it is too late in life before we go for the things we want. We save money for our pensions and decide we are going to live then; the downside to that of course being that we are in our worst physical shape.

“Without the illness I would never have been forced to re-evaluate my life and my career. I know if I had not had cancer, I would not have won the Tour de France.”

Don’t focus on Potential Failures
One of the things that really gets me down in life is the people that manage to talk themselves out of brilliant ideas and situations before they’ve even tried them out – before they’ve even given things a shot. Sure, you could fail at whatever you would like to accomplish; you could fail miserably. On the other side of the coin, you could also burn your hand on the toaster tomorrow morning but you’re still going to put the bread in the machine.

Don’t look for reasons not to do something, look for everything that is going to help you succeed in doing it.

“If you worried about falling off the bike, you’d never get on.”

Put Everything into your Goals
In my opinion, half-hearted efforts are going to get half-hearted results. If you don’t put the time or effort into something, you aren’t going to get your desired outcome. Whatever it is that you want, literally immerse yourself in the life of having it. Study the subject, set practical hours to work on your goals and actually stick to your plan.

If you do feel like giving up, just appreciate that other people going for the same thing are feeling that as well, and while they might let those feelings take over them, you won’t.

I figure the faster I pedal, the faster I can retire.

Lance is one of those people I’ve admired since hearing his story and watching the dedication he puts into training, day in and day out. To me, he is the epitome of success where hard work generates results.





A billion shards of light: Surfing at sunrise

14 05 2009

Remembering...

 

That morning...

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today’s post is a guest contribution from my well-travelled photographer friend Ana Vuckovic. You can find out more about her and see some of her work here.

When I read this for the first time, it gave me goosebumps. The writing – by an old man remembering a moment from his younger, more active days – is so vivid and descriptive that the images leap out at you from the page. You will love it – especially if you’ve ever been for an early morning surf on a deserted beach.

Let it inspire you to do something today, that you will remember forever.

– Quinton

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I just read the most amazing book by a great, true blue Australian author, Tim Winton. The book is called “Breath”. Tim’s novels often touch on the subjects of surfing and the ocean, especially in Western Australia, where he grew up. Here is a passage from the novel “Breath”, which I really quite liked:

“On a still morning in late September, in a lull between cold fronts, Loonie and I pedalled with our boards to the Point where the waves were small and clean and the cold water was as clear as the sky.

“We sat inside at the mellow edge of the rip and paddled into waist-high rollers that carried us hooting and howling in to the beach. We had the place to ourselves. The sandbanks rippled underfoot, schools of herring swerved and morphed as one in the channel, and across in the bay the breaths of breaching dolphins hung in the air.

“I will always remember my first wave that morning. The smells of paraffin wax and brine and peppy scrub. The way the swell rose beneath me like a body drawing in air. How the wave drew me forward and I sprang to my feet, skating with the wind of momentum in my ears.

“I leant across the wall of upstanding water and the board came with me as though it was part of my body and mind.

“The blur of spray. The billion shards of light.  

“I remember the solitary watching figure on the beach and the flash of Loonie’s smile as I flew by; I was intoxicated.

“And though I’ve lived to be an old man with my own share of happiness for all the mess I made, I still judge every joyous moment, every victory and revelation against those few seconds of living.”





You Are Special

12 05 2009

Punchinello

 

Came across a delightful little story by the inspirational author Max Lucado the other day (while browsing aimlessly online). It’s almost like a children’s story – which only adds to its appeal (did you ever get told bedtime stories as a child?).

The story is about a little wooden person called Punchinello. Actually he’s not really a person, but a “Wemmick” (think of Noddy and you might be on the right track). Wemmicks spend their days giving stickers: golden stars to “good Wemmicks” and dots to “not-so-good Wemmicks.” Punchinello becomes covered in dots because he stumbles and has scratches, he can’t jump high or do any tricks. As he is becoming discouraged though, he meets a Wemmick that has no stars or dots on her. She tells him about Eli, the woodcarver, and how Punchinello should visit him. Eli explains to Punchinello that the stars and dots stick only if you let them. He further explains that it doesn’t really matter what other people think, because He, the Maker, thinks Punchinello is special. He’s special because Eli made him. Punchinello begins to believe Eli, and as he does, a dot falls to the ground.

The idea of this story is that we are all different and unique, and yet we are all special because we have all been created in God’s image. I love it! You are special – you are different to everyone else on this planet, and you are different for a purpose! You were placed in this point in history, in this place (geographically), and in this environment (socially, your family etc). You have been given a unique combination of abilities, experiences, personality and potential that no-one else has! Don’t worry about what other people (“Wemmicks”) think – only ask, what are you going to DO with the life you’ve been given?

Enjoy the story – read it like a kid, and let it make you smile.

– Quinton

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You Are Special

-by Max Lucado

The Wemmicks were small wooden people. Each of the wooden people was carved by a woodworker named Eli. His workshop sat on a hill overlooking their village.

Every Wemmick was different. Some had big noses; others had large eyes. Some were tall and others were short. Some wore hats; others wore coats. But all were made by the same carver and all lived in the village. And all day; every day; the Wemmicks did the same thing: They gave each other stickers.

Each Wemmick had a box of golden star stickers and a box of gray dot stickers. Up and down the streets all over the city; people could be seen sticking stars or dots on one another.; The pretty ones; those with smooth wood and fine paint; always got stars. But if the wood was rough or the paint chipped; the Wemmicks gave dots. The talented ones got stars; too. Some could lift big sticks high above their heads or jump over tall boxes. Still others knew big words or could sing very pretty songs. Everyone gave them stars.; Some Wemmicks had stars all over them! Every time they got a star it made them feel so good that they did something else and got another star.

Others; though; could do little. They got dots.; Punchinello was one of these. He tried to jump high like the others; but he always fell. And when he fell; the others would gather around and give him dots. Sometimes when he fell; it would scar his wood; so the people would give him more dots. He would try to explain why he fell and say something silly; and the Wemmicks would give him more dots. After a while he had so many dots that he didn’t want to go outside. He was afraid he would do something dumb such as forget his hat or step in the water; and then people would give him another dot. In fact; he had so many gray dots that some people would come up and give him one without reason. “He deserves lots of dots; ” the wooden people would agree with one another. “He’s not a good wooden person.”

After a while Punchinello believed them. “I’m not a good Wemmick; ” he would say. The few times he went outside; he hung around other Wemmicks who had a lot of dots. He felt better around them.

One day he met a Wemmick who was unlike any he’d ever met. She had no dots or stars. She was just wooden. Her name was Lucia. It wasn’t that people didn’t try to give her stickers; it’s just that the stickers didn’t stick. Some admired Lucia for having no dots; so they would run up and give her a star. But it would fall off. Some would look down on her for having no stars; so they would give her a dot. But it wouldn’t stay either.

‘That’s the way I want to be; ‘thought Punchinello. ‘I don’t want anyone’s marks.’ So he asked the stickerless Wemmick how she did it. “It’s easy; ” Lucia replied. “every day I go see Eli.”

“Eli?”

“Yes; Eli. The woodcarver. I sit in the workshop with him.”

“Why?”

“Why don’t you find out for yourself? Go up the hill. He’s there.”

And with that the Wemmick with no marks turned and skipped away. “But he won’t want to see me!” Punchinello cried out. Lucia didn’t hear. So Punchinello went home. He sat near a window and watched the wooden people as they scurried around giving each other stars and dots. “It’s not right; ” he muttered to himself. And he resolved to go see Eli.

He walked up the narrow path to the top of the hill and stepped into the big shop. His wooden eyes widened at the size of everything. The stool was as tall as he was. He had to stretch on his tiptoes to see the top of the workbench. A hammer was as long as his arm. Punchinello swallowed hard. “I’m not staying here!” and he turned to leave. Then he heard his name.

“Punchinello?”

The voice was deep and strong. Punchinello stopped.

“Punchinello! How good to see you. Come and let me have a look at you.” Punchinello turned slowly and looked at the large bearded craftsman. “You know my name?” the little Wemmick asked. “Of course I do. I made you.”

Eli stooped down and picked him up and set him on the bench. “Hmm; ” the maker spoke thoughtfully as he inspected the gray circles. “Looks like you’ve been given some bad marks.” “I didn’t mean to; Eli. I really tried hard.” “Oh; you don’t have to defend yourself to me; child. I don’t care what the other Wemmicks think.”

“You don’t?” “No – and you shouldn’t either. Who are they to give stars or dots?; They’re Wemmicks just like you. What they think doesn’t matter; Punchinello. All that matters is what I think. And I think you are pretty special.”

Punchinello laughed. “Me; special? Why? I can’t walk fast. I can’t jump. My paint is peeling. Why do I matter to you?”; Eli looked at Punchinello; put his hands on those small wooden shoulders; and spoke very slowly.

“Because you’re mine. That’s why you matter to me.”

Punchinello had never had anyone look at him like this–much less his maker. He didn’t know what to say.; “Every day I’ve been hoping you’d come; ” Eli explained.; “I came because I met someone who had no marks.”

 “I know. She told me about you.”

“Why don’t the stickers stay on her?” “Because she has decided that what I think is more important than what they think. The stickers only stick if you let them.”  “What?” “The stickers only stick if they matter to you. The more you trust my love; the less you care about the stickers.”

“I’m not sure I understand.”

 “You will; but it will take time. You’ve got a lot of marks. For now; just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care.” Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and set him on the ground. “Remember” Eli said as the Wemmick walked out the door. “You are special because I made you. And I don’t make mistakes.”

Punchinello didn’t stop; but in his heart he thought; “I think he really means it.” And when he did; a dot fell to the ground.

May all your dots fall silently to the ground; for if given by man; they matter only to other men; if given by the Gods; no one questions the scars that make up our lives. You are wanted – you are loved. And you are not an accident.

When given the choice; pass out stars; drop the dots in the trash.

Max Lucado





My favourite graduation speech (Wear Sunscreen!)

11 05 2009

Graduation speech...

 

Isn’t it amazing how you can recall specific quotes from a song that you heard years or even decades ago (and may not have heard for years).

I was talking to a friend recently about life, goals, giving and receiving advice and so on, when a quote burst into my mind from a song I listened to and loved in the 90’s. The song was called Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen). It was a big hit when released in ’97 but after 6 months of airplay, I never heard it again. It was, in effect, a “graduation speech” put to music. Do you remember it?

Out of curiosity, I did some research (thanks Wikipedia), and discovered the speech was originally written by columnist Mary Schmich, in the Chicago Tribune in June ‘97. She described it as the speech she would give to a class of graduating students, if she were asked to give one. The essay was then used by Australian film director Baz Luhrmann in his remix of the song “Everybody’s Free” from the film Shakespeare’s Romeo + Juliet, and a hit song was born (apparently the University of Zagreb in Croatia still plays the song at every graduation ceremony).

The words are awesome, and encapsulate some of the simplest and best truths I’ve learnt (and am still learning) in my life journey so far. Lyrics below – enjoy! And be sure to check out the rest of this site for other inspirational thoughts and challenging articles!

–          Quinton

 

Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ’97:

Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me: on the sunscreen.

Copyright © 2006, Chicago Tribune

Youtube Link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ